In the book, The Secret of The Shadow Debbie Ford uncovers our "story:" our past, misfortunes, trauma, abuse, loss of love and friendships, our anger, bitterness and lack of forgiveness. Debbie Ford describes our story as our Unique Recipe: she states, "In your life you have tasted the sweetness of love, the sour disappointment of loss, the bitterness that remains too many heartbreaks. Everyone of these experiences is part of your unique recipe. You wouldn't be you without them."
At the end of every chapter she has "Healing Action Steps" and questions to dive into to help the process with facing your shadow. Some of the questions run deep, like "Who would I be without my story?" and "What am I afraid I will lose if I give up my story?" Now that is a question to make your self go bonkers!
What am I afraid I will lose if I give up my story?
- My comfort zone
- My safe haven
- My family and friends
- My protection of armour
- Myself (or the self I've become accustomed to)
- To receive true happiness only for it to be taken away
Debbie Ford believes that everything we've been through we need to contribute to the world. I agree. I have and continue to do this through my writings and creativity as I share my stories, obstacles and experiences all the time. She states, "In order to discover your specialty, you must be committed to using everything you have been through to contribute to someone else's life. You don't need to be a college professor or an author to contribute your specialty to the world."
The power of owning your whole story: face it, embrace it and share it with the world. What is your story? Who is your shadow? What is your light? Gather your ingredients from your recipe and you have your life purpose!
If you are interested in Shadow work and moving forward in your life, this book will help you.