Wednesday, April 15, 2015
When you were young, did anyone ever ask you, what do you want to be when you grow up? I love this question. How could someone know what he or she wants to do in life when they haven't experienced life yet? I remember at a young age, I wanted to be a nun, teacher or social worker. What I knew for sure was that I wanted to help others.
I was in the restaurant business for nearly twenty-five-years; bartending, serving, busing and made it to management. But, I was unfulfilled; there was something missing. It wasn't enough and I felt I wasn't truly doing in life what I was put on this earth to do.
So, off I went to college to pursue a career. I went to college for law to become a paralegal; landing a job in this field was like winning the lottery, at least in New York. So, where do you think I ended up working at? You got it, the restaurant: it was what I knew best.
Of course, that little voice inside of me was nagging and still on me about helping others. I wrote for an online e-zine called Suite101.com as a way to help others. I had columns including Women Abuse, Teenage Pregnancy,and Celebrating Life. I wrote and published a book for Mothers and Daughters on self-love and goal achievement called Rainbow Wishes and Colorful Dreams. Helping and serving others is something I love doing - no matter what - I was going to find a way to make a difference even through the written word.
I knew there was more, something deeper. There was this bigger picture, an overpowering vision that was far beyond my wildest dreams. So, I went back to college for psychology to be a counselor. Perfect, right? To have my own practice and help others. As I was sitting in psych classes, that little voice kept saying expand your horizons - dig deeper.
This whole self-discovery journey was literally making me depressed. The meaning of Success to me was truly about achieving my greatest self and to live out my purpose in life. Through endless searching, creative therapy and battling with depression, the answers started to fall into place; the funny thing, the answers were always there.
I was already healing others through my kind heart, intuitive gifts, and of course, my writing. From there, I found my true calling: to be a Healing Arts Coach. I became a Reiki Master which then lead me towards becoming a Holistic Health Practitioner and then, of course, a healer. The more I worked on myself, the more my purpose in life started to fall into place.
The answers are always within us; it's our fears, doubts, inner critics, opinions from others that steer us away from our true selves. Tapping into our authentic selves is key towards freedom and true happiness. We all have passions, desires, dreams and a life purpose.
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Monday, March 23, 2015
"Earth and sky, woods and fields, lakes and rivers, the mountain and the sea are excellent school masters, and teach some of us more than we can ever learn from books." John Lubbock
Getting intouch with our bodies is something that shouldn‘t be ignored. Like trees, our bodies are always growing, expanding and shedding. Mother Nature undresses herself during the winter season as she bares all and allows us to see her true essence. In the summer, she dolls herself up in an array of colors spreading herself wide on the green carpet.
Embracing a spiritual practice, I indulge in the healing power of mother earth and learned to love the secrets of meditation. When I first learned about and tried meditation, I wasn’t too keen about it. The thought of sitting in silence for a long period of time made me cringe, but I mastered its technique and ventured out and created my own way in which to meditate.
After much practice and determination, I found myself meditating in many different ways; one being nude. This form of meditation is the most powerful act a soul can make. Having had a willow tree and lake in my backyard, I would plant my tush into the ground and sit under the tree. There I was, naked as a jaybird with the wind blowing in my hair and the sound of the trees swaying back and forth with the rhythm of the breeze.
During these times of disclosure, I’ve learned so much meditating naked: Read More Here in the Spring Equinox 2015 Issue (pages 58-59-an easy find).
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Wednesday, March 18, 2015
Back in 2011, I went to Books A Million to purchase some spiritual books. At first, I was planning on getting one book that being a Reiki book, but ended up buying three: a vintage chakra book, psychic book and Reiki For Life by Penelope Quest.
As I was standing there with three books in my hand, a woman approached me and mentioned how she was having these dreams about numbers and is looking for answers. She noticed the books I was holding and asked politely if she can ask me something. She asked about Reiki and who I was. I shared with her that I was working towards becoming a Reiki Master and healing coach.
We spoke, had a nice conversation and wished each other well. As I continued to look around the New Age section, a man walks over and proceeded to look at some crystal healing books. As he was looking at the books, he kept looking up at me smiling. He asked me about the quartz crystal I was wearing and asked if he could touch it and cupped the crystal in his hands, took deep breaths and closed his eyes.
He shared that he collects crystals through his travels and received them as gifts from family and friends. He looked at my books and asked me, "What is your plan? What are you wanting to do?" I was kinda set back as I, at the time, was exploring and truly didn't know the answers to his questions. I asked, "Do you mean personally or professionally?" He said, "Either one."
We went on having a conversation about the New Age world and I shared that I was working towards becoming a Coach with an emphasis in Reiki, Coaching, Angel Therapy, Healing amongst other areas. He looked at all the books on the shelves and took his hand, palm up, and slightly waved his hand across all the books and said, "Many people believe in all this, but the one thing holding them back is fear." He went on saying, "There will come a time when everyone will finally open up to what it is they truly believe in and be free of their fear."
I was in awe and took a deep breath and said, "You're right." He shared with me on how to do proper Chakra Balancing and said to me, "With all that you are planning to do, take your time, do it slow, don't rush this." He said, "When you are born, you first crawl, then walk, then run." He went on saying, "Take this and learn, do it right and I promise everything will fall into place."
I smiled and said thank you. He mentioned that he was from Memphis. He smiled back and walked away. As I was ready to leave the New Age section only minutes later, he was no where to be found. I call him *Memphis Man.* I had chills and still do.
Monday, March 16, 2015
Every week, I grab a cup of coffee and my camera and head out to the park. I embrace the sounds of nature, breathe in the fresh air and as I sit on the park bench, the sun warms my soul and the sky touches my heart. When I am out and about, getting lost in the woods, everything becomes more clear. The peace I feel at that very moment, I want to take with me all day.
There are many ways to connect with nature and ground oneself. Absorb the warmth from the sun and the bright energy from the moon. Take long nature walks and stroll along the ocean waves. Walk barefoot and enjoy the sensual feeling of the cold dirt and the sand stuck between your toes.
There are many debates about earthing and grounding as some feel it is a bunch of crap. Electrons are electrons are electrons so they say. Our souls and bodies are meant to embrace the earth's medicine and energy. Who doesn't like to be outside?
When the warm weather kicks in, Spring Fever emerges. We open our windows and doors from our homes, we drive with the window down, we start cooking outside and spend longer hours outdoors even if it means bringing our favorite drink out on the porch.
Re-charging our body, mind and spirit from mother earth, we are re-energizing our well-being. When you are at the beach looking far out into the ocean, how does that make you feel? When walking along a wooded path, what do you hear? When you spend a day outside away from technology and noise, do you feel refreshed? Listening to the sound of nature, birds singing, the ocean waves breaking, the rustle of a gentle breeze soothes the soul.
Sometimes we don't have to understand how these things work: electrons, earthing and grounding. Embracing and recognizing how our well-being shifts and how the earth makes us feel is what's important.
Open up your mind. Let your imagination run free! There are many ways to connect with nature and ground oneself. Earthing is key to good health and emotional well-being.
1. Dance in the rain.
2. Lay in the grass and count the stars.
3. Dip your toes in ocean water.
4. Feed the ducks.
5. Collect seashells.
6. Catch fireflies.
7. Rake leaves and jump in them.
8. Chase butterflies.
9. Take a nature walk.
10. Walk barefoot.
11.Walk on the beach.
12. Plant an herb garden.
13. Fly a kite.
14. Skinny dip in a lake.
15. Go fishing.
16. Meditate naked under a tree.
17. Read a book outside.
18. Blow bubbles.
19. Gaze at the moon.
20. Have a picnic.
21. Gather art supplies and paint some clouds.
22. Go to the park.
23. Swing on a swing.
24. Visit a local farmers market.
25. Go apple picking.
26. Go pumpkin picking.
27. Go strawberry picking.
28. Roast marshmallows at midnight.
29. Play golf.
30. Climb a tree.
31. Weed your garden.
32. Play in dirt.
33. Design a rock garden.
34. Go camping.
35. Sit under a gazebo.
36. Walk on a pier.
37. Collect pine cones and acorns.
38. Smell the flowers around you.
39. Hug a tree.
40. Go for a bike ride.
41. Take a nap outside.
42. Play with a garden hose.
43. Play with sidewalk chalk.
44. Bird watch.
45. Visit a local animal farm.
46. Go horseback riding.
47. Attend local festivals.
48. Go to a water park.
49. Jump rope and play hopscotch.
50. Go to a ball game or visit a high school football game.
Thursday, March 5, 2015
For the longest time, when thinking about meditation, my thoughts and vision were others sitting on top of a mountain in lotus position and simply letting go of everything just like I've seen in pictures. Although, many do this, for me, the peace and serenity that the pictures portrayed seemed so out of reach.
When I enrolled in the Holistic Health Practitioner Program with Yoganada Institute, I took a meditation course and read several books on meditation. The rules that applied on how to meditate discouraged me at first. Many books say not to meditate on a full stomach, not to meditate on an empty stomach, take a shower before meditating, let go of all thoughts and so on. Although, many of the ways to meditate or not is true, reading the do's and don'ts made me cringe.
The very first time I tried to meditate, I lasted for about two-three minutes, but I was determined. Three minutes turned into five then ten and then twenty minutes. Once I changed my mindset about meditating and letting go, it all fell into place.
The truth is as a mother of four, I have mastered how to tune things out. Yes. Once I let go and embraced the silence, me and the practice of meditation became best friends. With crystals in hand, lit candles and a breeze coming through the window, I am now a meditative junkie. I, at times, meditate naked. With my tush planted to the earth, I have meditated under my willow tree. As I sit in easy-pose, breathe and let go, the peacefulness that surrounds me is breathtaking.
Meditating doesn't have to be so perfect. Sitting in your office chair for five minutes with your eyes closed is sufficient. Sipping your coffee and embracing the warmth around your hands is perfect. Working towards the perfect meditative picture takes time. Just five minutes a day will lead you towards an hour of bliss.
Meditation has truly changed me and allowed me to embrace my higher self, honor myself and strengthen my intuition. If you are ready to embrace a self-care ritual check out my ecourse Creative Soul Reiki; a home-study Reiki Level One Course where Creativity and Reiki become one.
Friday, January 2, 2015
"My pen shall heal, not hurt." L.M Montgomery, Emily Climbs
Healing through creativity is my choice of drug. I will therapeutically heal myself through the creative process. Creative therapy is like meditation: focusing on an object/creation and letting everything else go. Battling with chronic pain and my inner self, I started to lose my true essence. I was more than just a mother and wife. I was more than just a bag of bones, I was a spiritual, free-spirited being that was dying to awake; dying to come out and share with the world what I feel, what I know, what I dream about, what I've learned and most important what I've experienced.
Through much adversity, I have become my own healer. Each and everyday I make a conscious choice with how I treat myself. Whether it's embracing my morning coffee, journaling or going for a walk; I celebrate each day with one foot in front of the other.
Embrace your spiritual and healing journey. Don't expect anything from anyone. Don't allow others to knock you down. Don't allow the physical and emotional pain drain you. This is your life. You have the power. You are your own healer.
Embrace your spiritual and healing journey. Don't expect anything from anyone. Don't allow others to knock you down. Don't allow the physical and emotional pain drain you. This is your life. You have the power. You are your own healer.
Seven ways to become your own healer:
- Reiki Level One: I am a firm believer in self-healing and what better way to heal oneself but through the love of Reiki. The major emphasis of Reiki First Degree is self-healing and I truly believe that everyone should at least be a Reiki Level One Practitioner including children. In the book Reiki for Life, Penelope Quest shares, "Reiki is a safe, gentle, nonintrusive hands-on healing technique for use on yourself or with others, which uses spiritual energy to treat physical ailments without using pressure, manipulation or massage. It is a holistic system for balancing, healing, emotions and spirit." Reiki is a beautiful self-healing tool that can easily be coupled with meditation, crystal healing amongst other energy healing modalities.
- Meditate: Taking time out to go within and let go is simply divine. If you are new to meditation, there truly is no wrong or right way to this amazing healing alternative. Honestly. Simply take a moment of silence, close your eyes, inhale and exhale slowly and focus on your breath. Meditation is simply substituting our thoughts with another object of attention. Read Coffee Meditation. If you feel a bit nervous and feel the silence is *too loud,* light a candle and focus on the flame, play meditation music and focus on the sounds of nature or drums.
- Embrace Nature: The silence and energy from Mother Earth is breathtaking. There is nothing like grabbing a cup of coffee or tea and heading out for a nature walk or hike. The sounds of nature; birds singing, the wind blowing and the rustle of the trees feeds the soul. Embrace her.
- Boundaries: Respect your own space. It's ok to take a step back from others be it friends, family and even our own kids. Yes, downtime, me time and alone time is key towards self-healing. If people truly love and respect your space, they will be there when you return. Having boundaries doesn't mean ignoring the ones you love or letting go; it simply means respecting your own energy fields, your own space and yes, your own sanity.
- Journaling: Journaling is a wonderful way to connect with one's inner self, emotions, dreams and goals. This is an amazing healing power tool that many embrace and use for self-healing, shadow work, goal setting and daily rituals. Want a journaling boost? Check out my FREE ecourse called Awaken Your Soul and embrace your self-healing journey through the joys of journaling.
- Creativity: Using creativity as a healing practice will help to heal and inspire you to make dreams come true. When we engage in the creative process, we connect to our higher selves, we meditate and we find ourselves in the midst of our creations. Indulge in a favorite creative pastime whether it's writing, painting, doodling, knitting, cooking or blogging.
- Healthy Living: What exactly is healthy living? No smoking, drinking, eating certain kinds of food, exercise and how we manage stress. Truthfully, it's all about what works for you. Some lead a vegan lifestyle, vegetarian lifestyle, low-carb diet or a heart healthy diet. Many go to a gym, embrace Yoga, jog or walk. It's all about choices and moderation. Kicking unhealthy habits isn't easy, but baby steps is key.
We are all healers. What feeds your soul? What makes you smile? What calms your nerves? What makes you happy? Go do that!
Image credit: Walt Stoneburner
Image credit: Walt Stoneburner
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
Automatic writing is an amazing way to channel your higher self, spirit guides and passed loved ones. It’s when you allow spirit to communicate through you and allow your unconscious mind to take over your writing. This form of writing is a great way to tap into your higher wisdom and a wonderful way to allow your true essence to surface.
Believe it or not, many of us have experienced automatic writing without even realizing it. Have you ever wrote in a journal, an article, on a blog and found yourself pouring out words as if something took over? Do you find yourself writing a masterpiece and then unable to write it again? Have you ever created a piece of art but unable to create the same work again?
Here are some tips on how to get started:
Light some candles
Start with a mini-meditation
Try visualization and breathing techniques
Call forth angel guides and spirit guides. Ask for their guidance
The crown chakra (Sanskrit: Sahasrara) is located at the top of the head. It is known as the “open door” where spiritual awareness is received. Connecting to our energy fields/chakras is an easy task. Close your eyes and focus on the area above your head. Visualize a white light surrounding the area similar to a halo. Release any thoughts and simply allow yourself to envision a beaming white light.
Ask and you shall receive:
Ask your angel guides to surround you in a white bubble for protection and keep a black tourmaline or black onyx near your area. With any type of meditation and spiritual work, share your intentions with the universe and spirit guides. Release any thoughts and allow the answers to come through.
The Writing Process:
On a piece of paper or computer, write a question (I prefer handwritten myself). Allow the information to download and flow with ease without taking pen off the paper. Try not to think too hard and write down what comes to mind; even if it’s one word, write it down. There are several ways to do automatic writing: one is allowing spirit to communicate through you or it can be used as a meditative state (I prefer the meditative state) where you write down what you feel and hear intuitively: your higher self. Similar to meditation, you simply let go of idle chatter as you allow your inner self-awareness to take over.
Automatic writing in a nutshell is simply writing without thinking. Trust your intuition and your wisdom; believe in what you hear and feel. Everyone has their own way of doing this kind of work; find a system that works best for you. If you fear or don’t have any desire to allow spirit to communicate through you, the meditative state writing is a great alternative.
Monday, December 8, 2014
I wanted to create a day that was filled with magickal moments, ah-hah moments, creative bliss and a time that was completely focused on the Now: I call this day Magickal Mondays. Every Monday, I venture out and take my journal and markers and head out to Starbucks and turn towards nature. Many times I go for a walk with my camera; taking pictures of flowers, trees, the ocean, sky, moon and unusual findings along the way. The silence and beauty allows me to let go and listen to my higher self.
I have always loved to walk in the woods when I was a kid. Growing up when I wanted to be alone, I always ended up in the woods reflecting and embracing nature. Embracing nature is a form of meditation for me, and as a child, I never looked at it that way. As children, we truly are intouch with who we are and as an adult we reconnect with our inner child and find our way home.
At Starbucks, I sit in their comfortable brown, leather chair curled up as if I am sippin' my Latte' in the comfort of my own home. I will doodle, scribble and write about my upcoming articles and projects. It's a time when I relish in the present moment soaking and inhaling the smell of white chocolate mocha.
After sipping and pacifying my coffee, I head out and window shop at beautiful stores that lift my spirits and makes me want to sing and dance; surrounding myself with pretty things and positive energy that ignites my soul. Doing this truly helps me to reach my fullest potential and connect with my higher self.
You, too can have a magickal day filled with joy, bliss and lots of ah-hah moments.
Magickal Day Ideas
- In the morning, make yourself a nice, hearty breakfast. Depending on where you live, take your breakfast outside or treat yourself to breakfast in bed. Enjoy the weather (warm or cold), the birds singing and the warmth of the sun beaming through the window.
- Play dress up. Dress for success and start your day. Life is a dress rehearsal.
- Go to the park or beach (depending where you live) and enjoy nature. Bring your pet and go for a walk. Ride your bike; take in the surroundings and breathe. Feed the ducks, collect shells and allow yourself to just be.
- Talk to strangers.
- Treat yourself to an ice cream cone or an inexpensive lunch. Grab a slice of pizza; I have a whole new relationship with pizza since Eat, Pray, Love.
- Go for a ride. Pack a lunch and scope out places and neighborhoods in the area you live that you've never seen before.
- Window Shop - go to the mall, outlets and other shopping centers. Grab a cup of coffee and visit a bookstore.
- Journal: take your journal to the park or coffee shop. Meditate, relax and write your heart out.
- Visit your local library. Read a trashy novel.
- Depending on the holiday and time of year, start a fun project. Go to your local craft store, look around and envision your masterpiece.
- Go on a scavenger hunt. Collect nature botanicals.
- Cook your favorite meal. Make a nice dinner for yourself and family. Try a new recipe.
Create a day (or simply a moment) filled with activities that resonates with your soul. Always put your beautiful self on top of the list. You're worth it!
Wednesday, December 3, 2014
Shadow work is the most deep rooted, root canal work a person can dive into emotionally and spiritually. It is when someone is brutally honest with themselves with who they are, where their personal issues and emotions stem from, parts of themselves that they try to hide and deny and how they can step outside their shadow and be free.
According to C.G. Jung, "The shadow is that hidden, repressed, for the most part inferior and guilt-laden personality whose ultimate ramifications reach back into the realm of our animal ancestors and so comprise the whole historical aspect of the unconscious." He also defines The Shadow as parts of the personality rejected by ego.
Diving into shadow work is not an easy task. I know for myself when I do shadow work, panic attacks, anxiety, loss of breath takes over my whole body. I experience chills, sweat and my hands tremble as if I am being attacked: attacked by my own shadow.
This past summer, I embraced a self-discovery journey through deep inner work: this kind of healing work is both humiliating and liberating. The only way to heal from this kind of work is by speaking the truth: the truth to not only what has been bottled up inside of us, facing those who hurt us, but the truth to one's own decisions and choices.
Through my own inner work, I have discovered that I have "A Quiet Mind." For most of my life, I would not speak about my feelings when others hurt me. I would take a deep breath when someone said harsh things to me. Being very passive, I have come to find out that I am an Empath and HSP: there would be so many times in my life where I would be suckered into situations that I could not understand how I got there in the first place. Through my own inner work and journaling, I have come to find the answers.
How does shadow work begin?
It begins by removing each layer of the shadow into the light. Embracing all of our selves like a peeled onion that leaves us with tears. Our shadow, for the most part, is filled with many faces including fear, anger, control, criticism, a feeling of weakness, shame and guilt. It's the shadow self that keeps beating us up, knocking us down and keeping us from moving forward.
What to know before and during shadow work:
- We're all human
- No one is perfect
- Everyone has their own shadow
- Everyone faces fear and life challenges
- People hide their true emotions
- Each and everyone of us are looking for the same thing: true happiness
- Everyone is on their own spiritual path
- We are all one
Healing Through Creativity and The Written Word:
Writing, painting and any kind of creative work opens the soul to where its never been before: the truth. When we embrace creativity, it takes us to places that we never knew existed: we awaken.
Shadow work doesn't come easy, but the first step is to ask yourself shadow burning questions. These questions is where the dark steps into the light. If you are ready to start your own inner shadow work and dive into awakening your soul - check out my FREE Ecourses Awaken Your Soul and Love Letters.
Friday, November 28, 2014
Dealing with chronic pain, I promised myself that I wouldn't fall into a pattern of always being bed ridden. As much as it sounds comforting and relaxing, my bedroom wasn't going to be my cemetery of pain. I didn't want to find myself on the couch all day watching TV and most of all, I didn't want to stop the the things that I love to do the most.
When I am in pain, many will advise me to lie down, put my feet up, go to bed and get lots of rest. Although, this form of healing is important and necessary, this kind of relaxation only keeps your mind on the pain and nothing is distracting you from it.
Managing pain isn't always easy. Whether suffering from physical pain, emotional or mental, battling with depression, abuse and hurt sitting around and being in bed isn't always the best medicine.
What I've realized over the years is that when we are at a stand still, the pain worsens. Our minds are focused on the pain no matter what kind of pain we're in. I will be the first to admit the need to cry over a song or movie, indulge in a bowl of ice cream and scream to my heart's content, but I have also come to realize the best healing of all is through creativity.
When working creatively, it enhances our awareness. We become expressive and more communicative: creative energy becomes a healing force for body, mind and spirit. Our minds are indulged in the creation, we express our thoughts and pain onto canvas and through the written word.
The creative process truly helps the pain subside: my mind is so focused on the creation that I truly don't feel the pain. Depending on my pain, I will throw my emotions onto canvas and simply let go: this is when I create my best work.
Release Pain Through:
- Finger Painting
- Intuitive Painting
- Favorite Craft
- Automatic Writing
- Treasure Mapping
- Dreamcatcher Mapping
- Mind Mapping
- Creative Journaling
- Word Association